The Father of the Bride!

The other day…while surfing thru’ the channels…..came across Star Movies showcasing a lovely movie….. “Father of the bride”….!

We were lucky enough to catch the movie…though it was the last part…

I have seen this movie a couple of times...and every time I see it I watch it with same avid interest…as if watching for the first time..! What a lovely concept…the movie is all about – a father’s mind-set during his beautiful and lovely daughter’s wedding….!

That reminded me of my Dad…I was “his” girl…daddy’s girl…till I got married…or till Smarty came in my life…!

My Dad was so proud of me…or rather still is..! And I have seldom done good things that should make anybody proud…but then I was his daughter you see..! the one and only..! the apple of his eyes…he was/is soooo fond of me…and me in return too…!

On the day of my marriage…Mom (who was against our wedding for a while) was mourning since morning….:D…apologies Mom J…and I was the one consoling her(along with the others)…..to not to cry…and that I will there whenever she needed me (because her daughter is so dumb that no other country will take the risk of having her :P, she (I) am gonna be around throughout…!)…which did not stop her or her tears…from their job!

Dad was cool all the while and was proud to have a handsome son in law as a lawfully wedded husband for his beautiful and dauntless daughter…! He had no time to console poor mother as he was busy managing the arrangements…!

From the moment I knew that me and Smarty were getting married soon..I had made up mind not to cry…because its supposed to be a happy occasion…where I will be leading a happily ever after life with Smarty…and not vice-a-verse…where I will be a moving away from my parents..! I took the spirit in a positive way…! And I had lived up to it unless…that moment arrived…departure time guyz..!

Mom …her tears were all the more putting all their might to flaunt themselves…I was sad…a bit…..with moistened eyes…and making way thru’ the crowd of relatives with Smarty…..and then there he was waiting for us to wave Good bye…with a grim though trying to brighten up his face with a smile…I came close to him and gave him a warm hug…and that melted up all his heart……and he was in tears like a baby…asking me to take good care of myself…and appealing(literally) the same to Smarty…as if this was the last time I was gonna see him…as if all the the owner ship he had about me…was vanishing…..as if he had very little time to say…things to me…! And I could no longer live to what I had decided…I broke in tears too..!..Oh God…why did you have to make such customs??? Cant they be changed?? A father …my Dad surely must be having a heart of iron…or gold???…to let her dear daughter go with another guy ..!

Smarty was so moved by all this that he was on the verge of crying too and saying that …..Pappa…u can keep Swati for a few day…if you want..!! :D

But, then, we, father and daughter both being sensible people…made it a short affair…and Mom, Dad and Sandy…bid us goodbye..! with smiling faces…Mom was still crying though..! J

And my best friend dips…I was waiting that she would cry…because..now it wont be the same as it used to be before…but…that shameless female didn’t even have a drop to spare..! Stupid girl…and that now she knows……how it feels to be married…she must have known by now…how I felt that time..! :P

It takes guts people to be…The Father Of The Bride….!!

Love,

Swati Mayur (Smarty)

Smarty and Movies....

I love to watch cartoon or animated stuff...and Smarty hates it as much as I love it...!

And...Smarty looooovvvees to watch cricket as much as I hate it! I mean I cant bear to see every stupid match (which has no wieghtage, importance) that’s played by our stupid Indian cricketers throughout the year...!

And the worst part is that My Man does not understand that those cricketers get money for those matches...and u don't!

Once we had a heated discussion on this topic...and we do keep having such heated discussion now and then....and obviously I am never able to convince him at any cost..! Sorry I digress...but after one such heated discussion...My Man sent me an article written by Harsha Bhogle (who is a cricketer - theoretically) where he has explained - Why should one watch cricket…and its so much fun...and how it has touched so many people's lives (touched ???) and all that crap..!

But what My Man does not understand is, that "theoretical cricketer" is writing those articles to make a living....and not mere passion...because as long as the Indian cricket team plays...his theories float..!

But all in vain..! God please show him the right path, because thy not know what thy doing! sigh!!

Love 

Swati Mayur (Smarty)

Here she comes...

There seems to be a lot of confusion in my mind....well...confusion is not the right word but I am in state where I am not able to take a firm decision...and that is because  I am all skeptical about things...things which are crucial...in our life .....and to things which we have already paid enough....though it being not our fault..!

I had 2 missed abortions for the past 2 years…in a row….!

Both of us being completely illiterate in the medical fraternity had to listen and obey and to what the Doctor says…off course because it is for our betterment..!

We had followed our Doc’s instructions every time and still we had to face those abortions..!

At one hand we say that the medical science can cause miracles…then why not with us…!What did we do to anybody..!

I am not in a mood to go in the details of what happened each year that caused the abortions…but the truth is they happened in spite of taking precautions and care to what the Doc had told us..!

Anyway…after all this …we have dared to take a chance once more …and the lust for cute little baby (boy or a girl) is all that is making us do all this…and this time We will see that nothing goes wrong…!

Human nature and traits sometimes really makes you wonder….!

A kid is all that we are desiring to have now…..after a few years…when he grows in an adult…gets chipped off from its parents…the reason being his studies…then his job…and finally his marriage..! Some parents need their space then…and some suffer loneliness..!

So the question is…is all this pain taking worth it..!...Now I am again in a state of confusion…or whatever that is called..!

But then …after a bit of thinking…what I firmly feel is…..having a baby…and being a Mother…is a wish that I truly want to come true…is a role that I really want to pursue…and for that I am not gonna think of the future…and what will happen then…I am just gonna have it ……live in the present…forget the past…bring to life and try to make him/her the best human being on earth…who will have his own views…..and not get bamboozled by people’s opinion…and will has his own.. and lead a perfect life I have always dreamt of! J

God bless Us and the newcomer 

Love 

Swati Mayur (Smarty)

 

Vroom Vroom!!

We both were happy to welcome the new member of our family. She was red in color and people were awestruck whenever they saw her...our all new Vista :)

We hadn't bothered about the recession had gone ahead to bring home our long dreamt possession; Our Car :)

Learning to handle her was an experience all together...she was smooth and curvy and sexy..! When she was only a few days old I or rather both of us would wait for the moment to drive her on the roads. Less was I aware then about how bad is the Pune traffic and worse are the road conditions (which now they say are better...says who??)..! Because it becomes very hectic for Smarty to drive a 2-wheeler or a 4-wheeler all the way to Hinjewadi, he prefers to go by the company transport system. So...I, now who was all the time after Smarty to get us a car...so that we could save money on the daily rickshaw fare... while going to and fro to office.....had to take Vista to office ....daily..!

To be honest.....it was really a nice feeling to flaunt your car by driving it to office and I was so excited about it...! But I think after a week's driving on the Pune roads I no more have this excitement....its vanished!

Curse this traffic...!

Only if the Pune roads were wider or the traffic was lesser....driving in my (our) Vista would have been divine :)

Love 

Swati Mayur (Smarty)

Inferiority Complex

I have always had this inferiority complex with some things or the other. Like when i was a kid I had complexes about me not having lovely clothes and thought my friends had the best outfit..!

And I literally had this complex til I was in college.

Later, after a few years, I got married and my husband was earning a decent amount, that was the time when I really started shopping! Later I too got a good job and now I have like...I can own a shop!

Now I am complete satisfied with the array of external clothing’s I have :) Holds true for the range of footwear too...

Now, my complexes have become mature...

I am a Tech writer by profession and I am supposedly expected to have a good command for the Britisher's language. I do have a good command over it, but ironically, I am not able to speak fluently....and  I always have this feeling that the person next to me can speak the best English ever....which in turn makes me stammer while I am speaking and lowers my confidence :(

I am trying to over come this by talking in English with the Smarty (for which he really gets agitated sometimes :))or reading English books and articles, watching English soaps...And a lot more...not worth mentioning...........!

I hope I over come this too...soon....!

My last inferiority complex was over come with the help of Smarty...hope He or he helps me this time too! :)

God bless me

Love

Swati Mayur (Smarty).